# of accidents on our floor before 11 am : 4
# of successful potty uses: it would be stretch to say 1
Then I gave in and put the pull up on (I had her in training panties) and then I lost count of how many accidents we had in the pull up. I would put her on the potty and she would try and then 5 seconds later have an accident. Remember she is not compliant and is strong willed so getting her to stay on the potty until she actually goes is quite the challenge, as you can tell.
So, I'm in a bad mood now. I'm so frustrated that nothing is easy with Ellie Kate.
I really feel like I need to get her trained now before we have to go to Colorado for our summer training (we'll be gone June and July). When we get back, school starts and our schedule is CRAZY so it would be hard to find time to really devote to training her.
So....lurkers, strangers, friends, family, ANYONE who has an opinion....please give me any encouragement, tips, advice, strategies, etc. to help this little girl get it.
At least she's cute...
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I've heard to let them run around naked in the yard and they'll figure it out after a few days:-) Other than that, treats seem to work.
Oh...the potty drama. I feel you sister! I guess the best thing I can share with you is to get in the mind set that for the first several MONTHS, potty training will still be as much (or more) work for you than diaper changing. It requires so much attentiveness and they need a lot of help (getting on the potty, getting off, washing hands, re-assembling clothes, etc). The best thing I read that totally changed the course of training for us was to offering treats for staying "clean and dry" rather than sitting on/going on the potty. I was offering treats for going and C was complying only when he wanted a treat not when he had to go so we were having a TON of accidents. When he realized he would get a treat for staying clean and dry (starting every 15 min or so and increasing time every day) we had greater success. And since staying dry is the ultimate goal, it made sense to me. I never had trouble getting him to sit on/go on the potty so if that is a struggle, maybe you could offer 2 treats for staying dry (really make it a big deal) and 1 treat (something different) for sitting/going. Hope that helps! Good luck - I'll be praying for you!
I'm sorry it's been a hard day, Rachel...I (obviously) have no advice in this arena, but I can say that I will leave a sticky note to remind me to pray for y'all tomorrow!
funny....just posted about potty training too! we may have to swap secrets....i am training a boy this time and you a girl...we took one solid week, thanksgiving break actually, and stayed home...only leaving when really necessary...i kept undies on her all day (until bed - that was a few months later) and made her sit on the potty every 30 mins-1 hour. i made a HUGE deal about when she went and a HUGE deal that she would stay dry...i think we may have used m&m's as a treat...one or two each hour she stayed dry...she was so easy....i am afraid grant is going to be so difficult!! good luck!
I'm no expert... but I'm all about the naked in the backyard thing... or waiting. She still is pretty young. No sense in making yourself crazy... or making it a battle of the wills between you. But, if you are really motivated to try with her... naked is my vote! :O)
Keep us posted!
Rachel--sorry for your tough day! I hope tomorrow is better with EK. Kelsey and I think you should try the treat system...she said her mom did m&ms...and I guess Kels turned out ok. Praying for you :) Love to help yall if you need a hand. I'm around...
Find something she LOVES - for Wilson it was krispy kreme donuts - and hold it over her head as a reward - it'll still take many days - but be consistent - keep her in panties as much as possible and reward immediately - for me it meant waking Henderson up from his nap after Wilson pooped in the potty and heading STRAIGHT to KK!!!! If Wilson can get it, EK can - just no it'll be a rough few weeks - try not to revert to pull-ups too much - wilson still to this day "uses" a pull-up or diaper the MINUTE it's put on him, but does fine all day in underwear. Call me if you need to vent!!!! I UNDERSTAND!!!! BELIEVE ME!!!!!
The naked thing seemed to work ok for us, but she was also almost 3, so it may not have had anything to do with the success! Unfortunately, especially with the strong-willed child (as we know well), it has to be their idea and their time. There is no way to force it! The more you force it, the worse it will make it for everyone! Sorry that this is not an encouraging comment, but this was our experience.
hey girl...as you see what people have written, every child is a little different i think. EK may be tough like dave since shes a little strong willed...it had to be davids idea. we tried at 2, 2 and 3 months, and finally at 2 1/2 he got it. i just watched to see his interest and his understanding. we waited til he was ready and he literally trained in a few days. i read potty training in a day book...its longer than that though. anyway, the hardest thing about potty training is just the mom holding it together. its so draining. i waited til the weekend and tim helped out which helped me b/c im not great with patience. good luck, cant wait to hear how it goes, dont feel like a bad mom if you postpone til later either. she WILL eventually be potty trained!!
and thats funny about seaside....how funny, there must have been something in the water ;)
Your friends are hilarious! Honestly, I wouldn't push it. You'll drive yourself totally insane. I'm serious. It seems like such a pain that she's still in diapers, but when she's ready, little miss strongwilled really will do it a lot easier than you trying to force it. I would enjoy your summer and not rock the boat just yet. But I know you and I'm sure you'll keep trying!!! :)
I LOVE the pics of you and Samuel! Too fun!
I need to check out Adobe Lightroom.
Let her do it when she is ready. I pushed with my first 2 and they were 3 1/2 before they were trained. My youngest is 2 1/2 and is just now showing interest! I am letting him do it on his own. Especially if she is strong-willed, (I have 2 of those!) it is better to wait. She will do it when she is ready. Have prizes and underwear that she likes and remind her off and on that they are there when she is ready to go on the potty. Potty Training to me is the most frustrating part of parenting a toddler!! Good Luck!
Benj will be four in August - four...and we still have accidents every day! Don't give up, but don't stress. You are superwoman to attempt this with a baby!
once you figure out what works, PLEASE post it! i am trying with emily too, but she has very little interest other than looking in the potty chair and trying to close the lid on herself. PLEASE help me!
and good luck! :)
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